Inner Child Work Is . . .

Inner Child Work is the process of identifying reality from a child’s perspective and discovering the truth about that reality. The indisputable truth of any reality is based on feelings. Therefore, to recover from covert, emotional, childhood trauma, one must be led gently and patiently to this child of big feelings and great needs. There, we will find the child and his/her truths. Children’s truths (i.e. the way they really felt) will invariably be radically different than the circumstances and external reality surrounding them in childhood.

By finding this inner child in its isolation and introducing this newly recovered reality to the adult personality of present day, a shift takes place. The inner child learns that there really was value in what the child felt and needed in any given circumstance, that HE/SHE was valuable. The inner children learn that they can be imperfect without anyone placing shame on them. They learn that someone can and does care enough about what they feel and need, and they will begin to feel a safety in being vulnerable. This process creates a secure, loved child. At the same time, the adult personality of present day learns to become a loving, mature, responsible adult, able to negotiate their reality without the fear of being shamed.